Posted on: 19th Dec, 2009 09:59 pm
my fiancee recently had his ex-wife show up at the door to the home they both shared, both their names are on the deed. she moved out of the house almost 2 years ago and the divorce decree states he would stay in the house and he would either sell or refinance it with no date of limitation on it.
anyway, she showed up at the door and said that she has the legal right to move back into the house and he can't do anything about it. so he let her back in because she threatened him saying her lawyer will back her up. of course, her moving back in has basically made him a prisoner in the house and he stays locked in his bedroom whenever he is not at work. she has full reign of the rest of the house.
she signed an agreement earlier this year allowing him to sell or refinance the house and he was originally waiting until 2010 to do that. now that she is back in the house she says she wants to keep the house and he has to move out and she is demanding that he continue to pay for everything while he still lives there, she wants to move her things back into the master bedroom and she is basically making his life miserable. is there anything at all he can do, does he have any rights?
anyway, she showed up at the door and said that she has the legal right to move back into the house and he can't do anything about it. so he let her back in because she threatened him saying her lawyer will back her up. of course, her moving back in has basically made him a prisoner in the house and he stays locked in his bedroom whenever he is not at work. she has full reign of the rest of the house.
she signed an agreement earlier this year allowing him to sell or refinance the house and he was originally waiting until 2010 to do that. now that she is back in the house she says she wants to keep the house and he has to move out and she is demanding that he continue to pay for everything while he still lives there, she wants to move her things back into the master bedroom and she is basically making his life miserable. is there anything at all he can do, does he have any rights?
Hi ras,
As far as I can understand the situation, the divorce decree states that your friend would stay in the house and he would either sell or refinance it. This is valid legal doc and his ex-wife will not be able to ignore it. I would suggest your friend to consult his divorce attorney and take legal steps so that he can either sell off the property or refinance it.
As far as I can understand the situation, the divorce decree states that your friend would stay in the house and he would either sell or refinance it. This is valid legal doc and his ex-wife will not be able to ignore it. I would suggest your friend to consult his divorce attorney and take legal steps so that he can either sell off the property or refinance it.
is he lacking something besides common sense? it sure seems like it - maybe you can get him a testosterone shot or something so he can unlock his bedroom door and gain entry into the rest of the house.
this is an unbelievable story. how does a former spouse, 2 years removed, come ringing the doorbell, suitcase in hand, and demand to be let in so she can take "full reign of the rest of the house"??
ras, i think i might be describing my "ex-fiance" if i were in your shoes.
there's no doubt that lawyers ought to be consulted; and in fact, it might be appropriate if law enforcement was contacted. it's probably too late for that, though, and he's so emasculated by this point that it might just be best to build a treehouse for him or go buy a dog house so he'd be able to "have his own place" again.
i'm sorry to be so negatively moved by this story, but it's totally incredible that someone (and it wouldn't matter if the protagonist was male or female) would allow a former spouse to walk all over him/her in this fashion...especially 2 years after the divorce!
this is an unbelievable story. how does a former spouse, 2 years removed, come ringing the doorbell, suitcase in hand, and demand to be let in so she can take "full reign of the rest of the house"??
ras, i think i might be describing my "ex-fiance" if i were in your shoes.
there's no doubt that lawyers ought to be consulted; and in fact, it might be appropriate if law enforcement was contacted. it's probably too late for that, though, and he's so emasculated by this point that it might just be best to build a treehouse for him or go buy a dog house so he'd be able to "have his own place" again.
i'm sorry to be so negatively moved by this story, but it's totally incredible that someone (and it wouldn't matter if the protagonist was male or female) would allow a former spouse to walk all over him/her in this fashion...especially 2 years after the divorce!
Thanks for the responses, both positive and negative ones. He is going to consult his attorney right after the new year and he is moving from his state to mine immediately after this is all settled. He is not going to be my ex because there is a lot more to the story this site only allows so much to be typed and it is a lot more than what I originally stated. The woman is bi-polar off her meds and needs serious medical care.
so why all the drama about her moving in? if he's moving to be with you, let him do it now, or will that set her off, too? you didn't mention his moving earlier, nor selling except that the decree allowed him to sell or refinance. let her have it, or was he really planning to sell?